Couples who divorce impact the lives of those in their family unit in detrimental ways. As I have studied the topic of divorce in depth this week I have reached the conclusion that if divorce can be avoided at all costs, then it should. Overall, in various studies completed it has been found that 70% of divorced couples feel that they should have tried harder to save the marriage from collapsing. Marriage is something that takes great unselfishness on the part of both individuals and when one or both are unwilling to sacrifice for the other, their marriage will not remain as strong. Obviously if the people are thinking of the other, they will be more willing to give up their strong opinions that could threaten the relationship.
Children are another factor that should be considered more in the idea of divorce. Legally the courts are working to fulfill the wishes of the parents and do not take into account the impact that different choices that the court will have on the children's lives in the present and the future. In a study of several thousand families, it was discovered that when a child of a divorced couple is fifteen years old, the father lives an average of 400 miles away. In class we discussed the multiple reasons why that would be the case at all and the effects that would have on the child. One thing that could have happened is the mother might have moved her kids away from the father to be nearer to family or start fresh. We concluded that if the child was a boy, he would not have a father figure to follow after and try to be like. Girls would of course be affected by trying to seek love from other males because she lacks that support coming from her father. Ultimately, divorce and remarriage is a difficult process that is suprisingly becoming more common. If possible Americans should think of others than themselves when contemplating divorce because there is more at stake.
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